We aren’t always going to get it right. And I think we need to learn to be okay with exactly that. I don’t know about you but I feel like I drop the ball 10x more than I see the mountain top. Some big things, some small. Sometimes I am exhausted and I feel like I just down right suck as a human being. And I think we need to learn that it’s normal to feel that way sometimes. Regardless of who’s life looks picture perfect I promise you they have their own downfalls, too. I sure as heck do.
I feel like there’s this unspoken pressure to be put together and perfect at all times. Especially when someone is in a leadership position with all eyes watching everything they do. When you and I are walking in our lives and being pulled a million different directions with a to-do list as long as California — we are going to have to know how to keep our soul healthy.
Wherever we go in our life, if we don’t have a healthy soul it’s not worth it.
Whatever we do in our life, if we don’t have a healthy soul it’s not worth it.
Whoever we are with in our life, if we don’t have a healthy soul it’s not worth it.
Whoever we want to be in our life, if we don’t have a healthy soul it’s not worth it.
So, how do you maintain a healthy soul? This is what I found.
The first step to ever maintaining a healthy soul is first recognizing that you are your own person and owning that. We are not here to play tourist in other people’s skin but rather to wear our own the best we can.What establishing health for you is not going to look the same for the person sitting next to you. God will always be there to help us be all that we can be but God will not sit there and help us be someone he didn’t make us to be.
1) ESTABLISH BOUNDARIES
A boundary is line that marks the limits of an area also known as a dividing line. If we set a boundary in our life it’s because there was a necessary need for one. We need to do a whole lot better at keeping our boundaries we set and not removing them because we think we don’t need them anymore. The moment we think we don’t need a boundary that we set to protect us is the moment we open the door to fall flat on our face.
People don’t fall back into their old ways because they are bad people. A lot of people fall back into their old ways because they knocked a door that the lord specifically shut.
Boundaries keep our hearts clean. Our souls healthy. And our walk steady. When you care about where you’re going, you care about the habits that could keep you getting there. When you know your vision of where you’re going, it makes it a lot easier to make decisions. When we care about what god is doing more than what our flesh wants to be doing, it makes sense to say no to settling. When we care about who God is shaping us to be, it’s easier to shut down anything that may hinder that. When we begin to care about what God is doing — we begin to care about what we are doing.
2) SPEND TIME WITH PEOPLE WHO HELP REMIND YOU OF WHY YOU DO WHAT YOU DO
What are you passionate about? Get around people who bring whatever it is out of you. Your “why” is what will drive your life. If you can get back to your why you can get back on track. There is something about getting around someone who reminds you of why you started what you do. For me, nothing in the entire world lights my eyes up like sitting down with someone who everyone else overlooks. If I’m getting overwhelmed with life or if I feel myself getting frustrated with things going on that I can’t necessarily change — I make it an effort to go to the mall, or one of the parks in Atlanta, or just anywhere and find someone who looks like they need a friend.
The moment I sit down with someone who I know other people have overlooked and I start talking with them and sharing our stories, it changes everything. It doesn’t matter how much I thought I was failing at life or how upset I was with circumstances or how overwhelmed I was with tasks. Why? Because I was reminded of why I do what I do.
Whatever you’re passionate about — no better way to keep your soul healthy than to get around people who draw that out of you.
3) LAY COMPROMISE AT THE ALTAR EVERY MORNING
Wake up and start telling yourself that you are not going to settle in your morals. Tell yourself you are not going to settle in your workplace. Wherever you are, go above and beyond what is expected of you. Tell yourself you are not going to settle in your thoughts. Start speaking to yourself what you want to see and watch what begins to shift. Tell yourself you are not going to settle in a relationship. The Lord is more than capable in this – wait out for the person that triumphs any uncertainty. Tell yourself you are not going to settle with your dreams. If your dream is something you can accomplish on your own, dream something bigger. Tell yourself you are not going to settle in the core of who you are. Be bold.
Whatever the day may hold, you hold onto what you know and you stand on what you want. If we want to keep our souls healthy we need to discipline our souls to say no to compromise in every aspect of our lives.
4) SPEAK LIFE
Change your vocabulary because what we speak is what we’re going to get. We choose what we think on and what comes out of our mouth. When we are frustrated, let’s train ourselves to talk UP and not talk OUT. We don’t need to cry and complain about people or situations to our friends. Let’s talk about it with the one who can actually do something about it. Pray up, don’t talk out.
You may get tired at times. You may get ticked off at times. You may get overwhelmed at times. But someone is going to do big things cannot let small things get to them. Let’s cultivate positivity and life until we see it come to pass. Because it always will.
5) THE ART OF CELEBRATION (PEOPLE, HONESTY, AND GRACE)
If we want to keep a healthy soul then let’s make it an effort to not always make it about us. Celebrate people and their wins. Celebrate people and who they are. Notice people and let them know you notice them.
If we want to keep a healthy soul then let’s celebrate ur ability to honest with one another. Every stressed and hurting soul just wants someone to sit down with them and say, “Me too.” We are only as usable as we are honest. Let’s use this gift of honesty to our benefit and begin to notice that we really aren’t in this by ourselves.
If we want to keep a healthy soul then let’s remember where we came from. If we can keep a remembrance of where the Lord has brought us from I believe we’re in good hands. Take time to remember who you were before you knew the Lord. Take time to remember where your life was headed before you met Jesus. Take time to remember how we really don’t deserve what we have but because of the kindness of the Lord we are here alive and breathing. Take time to celebrate his grace and the intensity of his faithfulness in your life.
Wherever we go in our life, if we have a healthy soul it’s worth it.
Whatever we do in our life, if we have a healthy soul it’s worth it.
Whoever we are with in our life, if we have a healthy soul it’s worth it.
Whoever we want to be in our life, if we have a healthy soul it’s worth it.
Only you can take care of your soul. So take care of it well, friend.