Being human, there are many things we do that can be excusable. Because we’re human and sometimes we are not the wisest. But there are some things, as Christians, that are inexcusable that we ought to talk about more.
Who has ever encountered a mean Christian? (Touchy subject?) (Maybe, but it’s necessary).
We all have. And I’m sure that each of us reading this, including myself, have all been that “mean” Christian at some point.
They really are the worst, huh? Kind of makes you feel like “Oh God, if this is how all Christians are then get me the heck away from them”. Right? Or like, if you are going to be mean why even call yourself a Christian? Just be a mean human being. Lol.
Here’s the thing.
At the end of our lives, we are not going to remember how great that group of people from school thought we were. We won’t remember all of the things other people did that annoyed us. We won’t remember petty acts that really got under our skin. When it’s all said and done, Jesus is not going to look us in our eyes and applaud us for the way we conformed ourselves to fit in with the different groups of people we were around. Likewise, He is not going to applaud us for pushing the outcasts aside in pursuit of attaining something for our own glory.
We are not going to get a pat on our back for the times we tore other people down because we didn’t like them. We are not going to be put on a pedestal for “winning” fights or for secular success. Jesus is not going to be jumping up and down with us over how much money we made or over how many people we got on our “team” for our own selfishness. Jesus is not going to be handing us gold stars for making sure the people we didn’t like knew we didn’t like them.
I think as humans we have adopted in this religious mindset and many of us call ourselves a Christian with no deep understanding of what this actually means. For anyone reading this, I hope this challenges your understanding of the weight in our words when you say we love Jesus. Because when we say we love Jesus, anyone who is listening to our words, reading our words, watching our acts on social media and our acts in our day to day life – they are automatically correlating what we say and what we do to who Jesus is.
The longer I walk with the Lord and the closer I get to His heart, the more I understand His love for people. The more I understand His gentleness and His kindness. The more I understand He is not a spiteful God or manipulative God. And as people who call ourselves imitators of Christ, we should act in the same way.
Here are seven things for us all to grasp hold of:
1. Jesus was not mean to people when He heard something He didn’t like or agree with.
2. Jesus was not spiteful towards people when someone did wrong to Him.
3. Jesus did not manipulate situations and conversations to get His point across. Why? Because He was truth and the truth will NEVER have to try and defend itself. A defensive heart is an insecure heart. And Jesus exhibited security.
4. Jesus did not tear people apart when He was hurting.
5. Jesus did not talk poorly about people.
6. Jesus was not obsessed with self success and making money.
7. Jesus was not scary and Jesus was not dis-loyal. Society tried to label Jesus as loyal because He was so out of the norm and about His Father’s business it almost seemed that way to the people around Him.
And as people who choose to classify themselves as, Christians (imitators of Christ), our lives ought to reflect kindness.
I am tired of mean Christians. And I stopped trying to defend mean Christians a long time ago. Point blank – mean Christians don’t have a true understanding of who God is. Sure, it’s hurtful when we interact with these kind of people. And sure, it’s easy to judge these kind of people and put every Christian into the same category as them. But bottom line is that mean Christians are human beings, too. And they just need their eyes widened to who Jesus actually is.
Before I ever knew God, I was just a mean individual. A lot of us were. Then there was a point years ago when I use to be a mean Christian. I would say with my mouth that I loved Jesus but then I would be tearing people a part or thinking terrible things of others. Then a few years back I had the realization that Jesus is kind. And if I am suppose to represent Jesus, then I ought to be kind, too. Because no one ever came to know Him through an argument or a debate. Even the Bible says it is the KINDNESS of the Lord that leads people towards repentance.
Is there grace for being completely human and being mean sometimes? Of course. But a lifestyle of a mean Christian is not okay and I think there comes a point in all of our lives where the Lord will stops us in our tracks and show us who He is and who we are. Because sometimes, praise God for this, it takes our world falling apart to obtain the realization that this isn’t our world after all. That this isn’t about us after all.
Jesus is not going to look us in our eyes and applaud us for the way we conformed ourselves to fit in with the different groups of people we were around. But He will applaud us for the way we stood out and loved.
We are not going to get a pat on our back for the times we tore other people down because we didn’t like them. But we will get a pat on the back for the way we elevated others in kindness and love. Jesus is not going to be jumping up and down with us over how much money we made or over how many people we got on our “team” for our own selfishness. But Jesus will be jumping up and down with us for all of the people we brought to Heaven with us because we chose to love them.
It’s about Him. And it’s our job to love people so dang well that they’re only response is, “If this is how Jesus is… then I’m in.” Let’s be KIND.